Hobbyists and providers alike, this question is for you.
For me, the reveal at the beginning of a date can set the entire tone. What's your favorite reveal scenario (clothing, attitude, etc.), and what is the best way to communicate a preference if there's something you want to see?
I'll start. I love a slow buildup, so for clothing I'm partial to either a sexy, sheer nightgown or clothing that she might wear to drive every guy in the room crazy at a party or business meeting. I also like the anticipation before a date, so a little teasing at first, rather than an immediate make out session gets me going., especially on a first meeting. In some cases, I even like the idea of being beckoned wordlessly deeper into the room, just to build the excitement even more.
Now that's just me. I'm really curious about other preferences, on both sides of the date.
I've met providers who arrive in an impeccable business suit, showing just a hint of cleavage. It was great fun helping them out of it, or watching as they do a strip-tease in front of me. Others wore sultry dresses, or a tight top and pants/shorts, or less. Once we know each other, providers tend to wear lingerie or sometimes greet me au naturel. Which is a lovely sight and also quite a time-saver!
I think if the lady feels comfortable in what she's wearing or not wearing, it helps set a good tone for the session. So I'm fine with whatever makes her comfortable, as long as it's appropriate for the setting (e.g. if we're meeting in public, I prefer more conservative clothing so as not to attract undesired attention).
wear whatever I feel most sexy in on that particular day, although I have no issue accommodating a request if it is something I already own.
in your P411 pics works for me.... pretty, pretty... unfortunately, the commute doesn't work well..
Aww, thank you kind sir
And You would look amazing no matter you wore. Do you prefer to get a request in specifics, or in the form of a "mood setter"' such as "badass" or "mysterious" or "sweet"? I like to think that providers have a much better sense of style (and a much more developed imagination) than I do, plus, while I might have some preferences in mind, the element of surprise is still important to me in the dance of seduction.
she looks like she took some effort to be prepared for the "date" - to look good -
to me the best start to the date is to get to kissing and making out pretty quickly - a few minutes of "getting to know you" punctuated with some touching and teasing is fine -
it's the kissing and making out that set the stage....
as much as I love fucking, I do like a bit of a build up... just not a huge time wasting build up -
and it's the quality of the kissing - sensual kissing not reserved "oh do I have to do this really" kissing - not "stick your tongue straight down my throat" kissing either - that sets me up....
my favorite sessions usually involve laying together, teasing, kissing, touching, stroking, until we are both really primed....
but I've certainly had a few great ones where the lady was "faster" than I am :p
Im shallow bastard,lol. So for me its all about my first view of lady. Id like her to be well dressed. It doesnt have to be revealing or classy, just something that fits her body type. I admit I get a bit turned off when she comes in dressed in baggy or "too" casual outfit. Thats why I prefer doing incall. Give the ladies more freedom to dress up. After the intial greeting, I want her to give it to me hot and intense while we rip each other`s clothes off.
Ah, cant wait for my session tomorrow
Posted By: 39Steps
Hobbyists and providers alike, this question is for you.
For me, the reveal at the beginning of a date can set the entire tone. What's your favorite reveal scenario (clothing, attitude, etc.), and what is the best way to communicate a preference if there's something you want to see?
I'll start. I love a slow buildup, so for clothing I'm partial to either a sexy, sheer nightgown or clothing that she might wear to drive every guy in the room crazy at a party or business meeting. I also like the anticipation before a date, so a little teasing at first, rather than an immediate make out session gets me going., especially on a first meeting. In some cases, I even like the idea of being beckoned wordlessly deeper into the room, just to build the excitement even more.
Now that's just me. I'm really curious about other preferences, on both sides of the date.
I generally stick to lingerie but sometimes like to look like a girl riding a bike in the 40's. In addition to wardrobe sometimes I instruct the willing to come in and not say a word…till after anyway. Sometime the getting to know each other is best after...
I have often done that. Sessions where there is absolutely NO verbal communication, like two animals meeting in the woods.
It's hard to find providers who don't need to chitchat, though. Even those who try to do that often fall into miming or gesturing in very literal terms. But when I find someone who digs it, it is really exciting.
Good to know...
Posted By: WickedBrut
I have often done that. Sessions where there is absolutely NO verbal communication, like two animals meeting in the woods.
It's hard to find providers who don't need to chitchat, though. Even those who try to do that often fall into miming or gesturing in very literal terms. But when I find someone who digs it, it is really exciting.
What a shame I'm on the other side of the country....
When I enter and see the lady, I respond to how she's dressed in so many different ways. A sarong is sexier than stockings and a garter belt for me. The sheath with no panties is erotic. Baby doll wraps are also good. Nude is always good.
When a woman asks in an email if I have any wardrobe requests, I sometimes reply, "No, I don't want you to wear anything," but I'm often disappointed when the door opens and, even though she may have said okay to that in the email, she greets me with clothes on.
One woman I really like feels uncomfortable being nude while I'm still dressed, and I can understand that.
One woman always just as a shawl wrapped over her shoulders, which she takes off right away. That's erotic the way she does it, but with the way others greet at the door, I can imagine that sort of falling flat with some.
I love legs. Then I love unwrapping the package. I like to see her fully naked when I leave, but not when I arrive
And the thing is, when a woman is dressed like that and she knows she's rockin it, she will fuck you silly. I especially like a date, when I have to pull the sheets out of my ass so that I can get dressed afterwards.
Someone else who generally likes a little build up as opposed to just hopping into the bed. Now I for one like the provider to 'help' me with my clothes. Hey Im handicapped, heh. Wearing something that shows some but leaves the rest for me to explore will get me going rather quickly. The build up of 'whats behind door number one' can get unbearable if the lady knows her trade. But I agree, tease me, make it mysterious, make me drool for it. Thats what makes it great. Make me choose you again and again on those lonely days.
I especially love thigh high stockings (I'm a leg man). Undressing her is nice. But one of my ATFs would meet me behind the door wearing nothing but stockings and FMPs...amazing! It was SO hot and the make out session would begin immediately.
I'm very interested in the client preferences expressed during this thread. Great topic and thank you 39Steps for posting. It is my preference as the provider to initiate seduction at first contact. Most often the suitor client knows quite a bit about me already through TER, other boards, my website and blog. It's my time when trying to reach for a suitable date/time for our consultation to not only perform my screening but also to innocently start the art (I didn't say act), of seduction and playfully flirt or share maybe a little something more about myself that they don't know from a review. I ascertain what attire might really get the client's juices flowing so I can deliver at the door 
I've always encouraged clients who wish to see me may ask questions before our session, I know whether or not I will answer Kidding!!! I'm an open book and because I believe that connection starts virtually at hello, I want to keep the connection building for the wonderful peak we will eventually experience in each others arms. I don't have an issue whatsoever if clients text/email before our date to share fantasies they might have or even ask for a special pic to help get them through their day or two before we actually meet. Foreplay and endplay are in my opinion integral to fulfilling intimacy. A regular client who say has visited more than 4 times doesn't deserve for the consultation to be stagnant and routine, correct? As the provider, I challenge myself to make each client visit (from repeats to new) very uniquely special and cater to that one individual client's needs and desires. I keep the consults fresh by introducing new role play and implementing a client's suggestion or idea that they shared on our previous visit. Providers need to listen to their clients during sessions and then deliver!
While I do practice across the board discretion/privacy (meaning I don't just send random text or emails to clients). However, if a client initiates communication, I truly enjoy getting emails and texts from clients in between our regular sessions again to spark that seductive cycle before our date which further enhances our connection when physically together.
I love the way you approach it! In fact, I think you just started seducing a bunch of guys with that last post. I guess my tactic assumes that the provider is not going to be as thorough as you, and I'm trying to get her inside my head as early as possible. I've even considered a short note describing what it was that made me choose her - or what brought me back to her - in the hopes that she will use that information the way you say. It's a bit of a contradiction, but as much as I want the beginning of a session to be a certain way, I want enough of a surprise in there so that she is quickly in control and making me lose my mind with the right balance of desire, anticipation, and fulfillment lasting throughout.
I always try to find out during a screening process where a potential client has found me (for SEO purposes of course). Also, I'm very curious and inquire often what might have intrigued that client to wish to schedule a consult with me. Even more importantly for repeat client's I always want to know their fantasies and desires (even if it's something they have encountered with another provider). Consultations certainly have impromptu actions on both provider and client's parts and that spontaneous approach can yield wonderful eruptions; however, I feel a good provider will take her craft to a higher level and truly cater fulfillment of client's individualized needs and forbidden desires.
As a previous "corporate" prisoner, it was always critical in attending continuing education to prosper in my business. I take that same approach in my career as an Adult Companion. Yes, I'm the one at the Barnes and Nobles café reading books such as "Red Hot Touch, A Head-To-Toe Handbook For Mind-Blowing Orgasms" by Jaiya and Jon Hanauer. If I could just get through Chapter 1 without having to use my Wand repeatedly
How quickly are you able to switch gears? In other words, if a client comes in and you're all set with your own scenario, and he says, "let's play horny boat show model and shy boy", can you get in character for that on the spot? I would think that the more time you have to prepare, the better, buy can you improvise on short notice?
Of course preparing in advance for a client's particular fantasy/roleplay is always nice. However a skilled companion should always be prepared for surprises too. I've been in a similar situation as you describe on numerous occasions. I can switch very easily and honestly love when it happens. Spontaneous changes during a sensual consultation can easily take erotica to a higher level, where both partiea enjoy mutual explosions
Is it also appropriate (or useful) to ask what a provider's favorite scenario is? Does that require a few visits to build up a comfort level, or is she likely to give an answer that will genuinely help? I ask because I feel I can get more out of an encounter if she becomes more engaged at a deeper level than even she expects. I understand that a good provider is always going to be engaged and enjoy what she does, but I love the idea of her being surprised at how much she's enjoying herself. It could be as simple as a few extra minutes of talk, taking an unconscious cue, a touch in the right place, or even a connection on something innocuous like an area of interest. My dream encounter is to have her win control over the date by creating a more intense experience than I imagined I could have, and if she can feel the same way at some point, it's the beginning of some amazing back and forth where both of us "forget it's a service"
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Every lady brings a different attitude and aura. I think most women know their niche. I've had ladies that dress, look and act ike sluts from moment one until the date is over and it's toe curling awesome. And then there are others who are elegant, slow compassionate and it's just as toe curling, only completely different. I think it's absolutely amazing how they can turn it on and off and make it seem so effortless doing so.
This is, without a doubt, the greatest hobby that there has ever been or will ever be.
I like to strip slowly. I like the man to watch my body and look at every part of me as I take off each piece of my lingerie...and then I like to leave on my shoes lol.
That's my kind of reveal!
Nothing like that moment of helping her take her bra or panities off - and each time, the reality hits home, "damn, I can't beleive I am really about to fuck this lovely creature!". Having a lady undress herself, just seems less intimate and sensual to me.
Here's a little game I play with lovers, three coin tosses. The first toss determines who gets naked first, heads it's me, tails it's her, because, well, I have the head and she has the tail. The second toss determines who is getting that person naked. By default we already know who is getting naked next, so the third toss determines who is getting that person naked.
Statistically, there should be nine possible outcomes (she's stripping for you, CFNM, etc.) and the outcome has always been that everybody wins.
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