Hey I'm completely new to the realm and wanted to give a little background about my situation, as well as ask for some advice. I'm a 22 year old virgin who has basically had absolutely no experience with women. I'm extremely shy and reserved and tend to have more than a bit of social anxiety. I was wondering if anyone had any experience with losing their virginity to an escort. Is this advised? Am I going to be mentally damaged in some way for the rest of my life? I know that I can wait until I find the "right" person, but I really don't have any confidence to speak of when it comes to interacting with women, and would have no idea how to navigate my first sexual experience even if I was able to make it that far. I'm also feeling like at this point of my life, after just graduating college, this lack of experience is really causing me a lot of distress. I feel pretty alone in all of this, and realize that society will most likely look down on me for paying for sex and not being with someone I love or is somehow "special". At the same time, there is that nagging physical need for contact that will not go away and seems to be taking precedence over everything else.

As for the practical part of this situation I'm really not willing to spend more than $150 for an hour. Meeting someone that's within 50 miles or less of me is also important. I'm not asking for a referral, I'm just giving some information of where I'm at. What do you all think?

Yes, I would advise losing your virginity to a provider.

I went through a similar process such as yourself.

The confidence I have gained as a man while in the hobby has been immeasurable.

However, that confidence has not led to transferable success with women outside of the hobby.

The most difficult hurdles you will face in the hobby are:  (1) finding the "right" provider (someone comfortable with a virgin), (2) allowing yourself to be screened for an appointment, and (3) discovering anyone in your limited price range.

No, the biggest hurdle by far will be the $150 an hour price range.

Interestingly, not one provider has ever commented negatively regarding my lack of sexual experience.

Not a bad idea to me but budget at least $200-$300 for an hour with someone who knows what they are doing. (Read reviews of them)  Contact them by email and let them know your situation and make sure you are both comfortable with it.  Sounds like you will be a better lover when you get some experience.  Careful though, the addition is strong.

I saw an escort twice before I had any sexual activity with a woman.  The first time it was a hand job, the second time a blow job.

My first time with intercourse was with a civie. (Ironically, she later became an escort, go figure.)

As for whether or not it warped my mental state, I'll leave that for others to judge, but I am sure having a great time.  (Why be normal?)

You should budget a bit more than $150 however.  You might find an OK escort for that at a half hour, but I suggest at least an hour.

Go with an older, more experienced gal too.  Some really do get off on busting a young man's cherry.

Please do not fall in love with them, however.  Remember it is a business deal, first and foremost.  They will show you what to do and how to do it so that you can have the confidence to walk into a dating bar and stand up for yourself.

Definately budget for $200-$250 an hour and stay away from CL. Go with a well reviewed girl that has been doing this for some time.  The last thing you need is a newbie teaching you .

Also go with someone closer to your age, you will have a better time.

I suggest that you get a girl friend first and develop normal relationship. If you start having sex you are going to want it all the time and you could bankrupt yourself at an early age. I lost my virginity at age 24. I took off vacation and spent a whole week of fucking with my girlfriend.

Take the time to invest/save for the future (35/40 plus in age) so you can have PIT (pussy investment trust) to pay for the hobby.

OK, I lost mine to a civie girl when I was young...  however I can be circumspect about sex.  We were in love but I did not marry her or any of the several GFs that folowed.  In my younger days, I was not a great lover...  I know that because I am much more skilled now.  

Sex is adicting and there is more to do & try than you could possibly accomplish in one hour.  Once you start, you'll want more.  You'll have to exert a great deal of self control or you'll blow your rent money & end up hating us.  Even us old timers have to budget.

It is very easy to fall in love with a lady you have great sex with...  this is good for the survival of the species but bad for keeping your head on straight.  

Your price range is too low.  An hour is none too much...  and in my area the donation is 200 and up.  There are lots of nice ladies at 200.  Save up until you have enough.

If you do decide to go with a provider...  there are 2 sides.  You want the pleasure experience but you should also learn to pleasure your partner...  what they don't teach in sex ed!  A lot of sex is the unique fit of 2 unique bodies...  and what works for one pair may not work for the next.  But there are similarities & a lot of common activities.

You WILL NEED to pay for at least one month of VIP so you can read the full reviews so you get a good match.  Take the reviews with a grain of salt...  I use a consistant review rating as a requirement.  NOt all need to be 9s or 10s...  but if I'm looking at a lady with an average of 8...  I'd expect a range of 7-8-9 (+1/-1).  If reviews have 2's or 3's in there, I suspect the lady is moody...  I read the low review to see (sometimes there is some explanation) but if not I avoid her.  

In all honesty, I think you might want to hold off for a year or 2...  while you put yourself out there for a civie opportunity...  but many civie girls expect a guy to rock their world & that's hard to do with no experience.  If you can keep it in perspective, this could launch you into a carreer as a great lover.

Best wishes,
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I married the first girl I ever kissed. (She later divorced me.) I was a terrible lover. We got books, rented videos and all that, and it still didn't help. If I had known then what I know now, I would have saved my pennies and invested in some "hands on sex ed."

Although I'm still no Don Juan by a long shot, I would have to say providers have overall improved my skills in that arena dramatically.

Here's my thought. The guys are right: once you've had sex, you'll want it all the time. I say: choose a good provider and definitely save up for the $200-$300 because you need an hour with a lady with a clue.

Once you've been educated, you'll want sex day and night. Swear off providers for a while, and stick to that or you'll go broke. The sheer drive and desire will then force you to overcome the social anxiety and hit on civie girls you otherwise wouldn't have hit on. And they'll appreciate what you've learned. Then, a year or two later, if you need some touch-up, skill refinement or just to add new stuff to your bag of tricks; duck out and see another provider for inspiration.

Except for one provider I saw who was very focused on pleasing me at any cost (nice problem to have), I've found providers as a whole to be very willing teachers.

I really appreciate the responses here. It's nice to know that people are willing to give some useful feedback rather than just ridicule my situation. I'm a pretty confused person sexually, but I can see the advantages and disadvantages of seeing a provider. I guess the need for sex is just hitting me now at the worst time, when I should be focusing on some of my other life goals that certainly also need some attention. I'm thinking that this is something I should put off for a little bit rather than rushing into it. I really don't have a way of knowing how a session would go or what the aftermath of that would be. People are different and react differently to these kinds of situations, it seems. Even if I did feel confident, or strongly desired sex afterwards, I don't know if I have a strong enough foundation to really seek it out and get it.

Again, thanks for the responses. If anybody else has any other feedback or personal experiences it is appreciated.

I should add that my first visit with a provider was after my wife divorced me. (BTW, I was a virgin until 22 too.)

Up until my ex got rid of me, I had had an extremely plain sex life. While I was aware of other things, the ex had never really been into trying other things. So I had never had a blowjob or really done much beyond missionary position.

I did NOT tell the provider this, since "I didn't know enough to know how much I didn't know."

Because of this, I found the session to be shocking, jarring and even upsetting to a degree. (Absolutely NOT her fault, she was fine!) Part of this stemmed from being fairly well hardwired monogamous so the very concept of having sex with someone other than my ex was very odd and foreign; and I was also unaware of the hormones and subsequent feelings created by orgasm and stuff.

I really suspect that a good provider, if you informed her in advance, would be helpful in these respects so you wouldn't have the same kind of issue.

But let me give you another take ...

Confidence is confidence -- no matter where it comes from, and it translates between endeavors.

After the ex divorced me, I used the opportunity presented by lack of a family to create a couple of businesses. These succeeded wildly. Success breeds confidence; and confidence (tempered with a bit of wisdom) can breed further success.

I was a 30 year old single man with good economic prospects living in metro Boston who had a sum total of 1 lifetime sex partner; and enough information to know that I sucked in bed.

My solution? I explained to prospective dates that I had a lot to offer in many realms; but if it progressed very far, I made sure they understood that my sexual experience at 30 was very limited. Business success had given me the confidence to not feel badly about saying "there's a good chance I suck in bed, but I'm educable."

The bottom line is that if you have areas where you already have some confidence -- such as your degree fields -- I say buckle down and start building stuff with that. As you gain successes, you will gain confidence -- and that will spill over into other arenas.

This will be reflected in your bearing and other things. Sooner or later, an attractive girl will drop the hint that she wants you to ask her out; and that's when you do it.

Also -- rejection sucks; but don't let that stymie you. There was one 3-year period where I literally had, on average, a date with a new girl every week. (I was making up for lost time and found women fascinating.) That's around 150 "yes"s that I received. I guarantee you that the "no"s outnumbered the yeses by at least 3:1. I asked out women while pumping gas, bumping into them downtown, out of the blue, etc.

Here's the thing: unless you are willing to take a no and learn from it, you will never get a yes.

Also -- trust yourself. The fact that you are concerned about your reactions already says that you are a conscientious person. No matter what you do, you'll be fine.

again, I can't answer that.  For the sex novice it is possible to get "performance anxiety"...  It can (reportedly) occur with stunningly beautiful providers....  not that it would ever happen with me!  LOL!  (I can see the peanut gallery ROTFL.)
 
However, when it's important in the civie world because it's someone you care about...  that's even more difficult.  In the civie world, it's ok to be less experienced...  and it is very beautiful to explore each other in an awakening.  That said, I believe in a civie relationship you need to know the basics or be a very quick learner!  Or perhaps very well read.

In my civie relationships, several GFs, a hot affair with a older married woman, more GFs, a fincee, a disasterous 5 year marriage, & now my present marriage (close to 20 years)...  let me say that I was not a great lover until the last.  This is a reflection of my own upbringing & those of my partners...  It's like Dancing with the Stars...  you have to have a great partner to bring out the best performance!  

So why do I see providers?  Because my dear wife, now post menapausal, has lost interest.  

If you decide to gain this experience in the near future, I suggest you NOT go with a very young woman, but a 30ish MILF.  Someone with the patience, temperment & skills to teach you.  And while it is great to get off, you need to learn how to give as well.  This knowledge will hold you in good stead through out your life.
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For a hundred and fifty dollars you'll get a girl who has a set routine.  You'll go in there, you don't have to say a word, she'll start with a massage, maybe a bit of rimming, tell you to turn over and take care of business.  You'll be out in half an hour and you'll be a new man.  Of course, as everyone is telling you, it's very addictive but very fun.  Good luck.

NEVER!!!( I know that you are probably crazy horny right now, just fap it out, and be calm!!!)

pros:

0 time investment (either give a call or email)

expected quality (depending your budget)

all-around satisfaction ( roleplaying, and personal fetishes)


cons:

time and emotional investment

big bucks off

potential of addiction (it's so easy to get horny between 16-25,if you stick with escorts,eventually broke at an early age)

potential STDs,HIVs

completely change your attitude about relationships


advice:

regular "relaxation" ( you know what I mean)

go to the gym

get involved with peers
   
just wait for the right one to come!!!