I will be honest with providers...
Anyone who has known me knows that I fully cooperate with references. I don't care who the lady is or if I like or respect her or not. References are all about safety and I'm going to give honest references to any legit provider that asks.
A few of you have used me for a reference since I've been back. I don't mind at all however, I'm going to be honest with my fellow providers and let them know how old my reference is. I'm in a unique position here as I can not give any recent references for anyone in Wisconsin quite yet. I haven't seen any of you guys since I've come back! That will change! Personally, I like my references to be as recent as possible. I don't accept any that are 3 months or older. I also let ladies know when the reference I'm giving them is old. At this point any reference I give will be a minimum of 3 years old. I don't mind giving references however, I will let the provider who is inquiring know it's a very old reference. Many ladies have seen gentlemen on my reference alone because they trust me. I have a responsibility to stay honest, people's safety and possibly their livelihoods are dependent on it. If a provider saw a gentlemen on my reference and he ended up hurting her in any way, I don't believe I could live with myself. Honesty without judgement is how I've always handled references. For the time being, I'm not a good reference...that will change as the wheel of time turns. Stay safe! Becca