Some people believe that Sugar Dating is just another form of sex work, and I certainly am not going to argue the point.  Certainly many of the SBs themselves don't want to be seen as sex workers.  And the SA site has to maintain the position that there is no illegal activity being promoted on their website. Therefore SA says PPM is against their rules.  So be it.  We all need to be discrete and use the appropriate language.   I never offer pay per meet.  I do offer gift per visit, or allowance per visit, similar to what others have suggested.  Remember; Sugar Babies are never paid for anything, they receive gifts.  Escorts are paid, but only for their time and companionship. Prostitutes are paid for sex.  The reality may well be that with each of these 3 categories of women you may have a similar experience, namely, they show up, you enjoy some sexual activity with them, and they leave with some of your money in their pocket. But prostitution is illegal, escorting is legally questionable, and at least so far, Sugar Dating is perfectly ok.  Let's all work to keep it that way.