Assuming your provider really truly MUST have 10K in cash upon arrival for a extended weekend date (which is a whole other thread / discussion)....
This whole business/universe of p4p & providers is fraught with risk, and requires a lot of ass covering and trying to anticipate, etc. it's why it's still limited in scope and people, not many can handle or want to handle what's involved. Some providers keep it as simple and limited as possible.....such as only doing incall with few clients at one specific location, or only doing outcall in one city oncertain days with select few clients etc. This allows for risk and uncertainty with large cash amounts to be controlled somewhat.
In this day and age, why on earth would you actually carry 10K for any length of time to begin with...? WHats wrong with other forms of transfer to mitigate or lessen the amount?
it's not simply theft you need to worry about....it's a whole slew of possible scenarios (all of which are unlikely, but this is the kind of shit that only has to happen ONCE, and you have zero recourse..."you be fucked and out 10K" or much much worse) A few years back, I had a associate who was returning from Vegas with 17K in his front seat in a bag. He gets side swiped coming home near San Bernadino, flips his car off the freeway and lies in a twisted wreck....bleeding profusely, he had to be cut out of his vehicle. It was a travesty.....much of the cash was either blood soaked or wet from the water they sprayed while cutting him out, and once the firemen saw all this cash, the cops there suddenly decided the cash was more important to focus on than saving his life. Nothing ultimately happened to him legally because they were able to document that he won it in Vegas (although it wasn't all winnings, he had spent/lost a large amount, such that maybe 9k of the 17k was actual profit)
He legal fees and retainers, to say nothing of his pain & suffering and other shit, ate up any profit......the point is, you never know what might happen. What if you were suddenly stricken with a serious health problem, walking around with that money? Either accept the risk as something you need to carry in order to satisfy your yen for sex & companionship, or regroup, rethink and try something else.
The Banks and 10K transactions.....they ultimately will NOT do anything to you unless you give them other reasons to do so......the US government agencies (IRS, FBI, DEA, SEC, ATF etc etc) are so overwhelmed and understaffed that it's highly highly unlikely you'll be investigated unless you are really doing something worthy of investifating.
As Scarlet said, you don't have to make things easy for the pricks, but don't lose sleep over any of this either, or else you better do something else.
And I'd rethink the whole need to bring 10K with you to meet this provider.....it screams vulnerability, even if she is known to you.