In the old days of this business, when the internet escorting phenomenon was finding it's groove, many ladies found their place in the Sex Industry. Fat ones, thin ones, Fetish, unhappy housewives, college girls and on and on and on.
And as these women discovered their ability to sell their companionship on the net, guys found an oh so easy way to find the their perfect woman, within the privacy of his office or home.
So out came the fetishes. OOOH maybe I want a Dom tonight. Maybe a girl who looks like the one who got away in high school. Or perhaps a large, soft, intelligent woman who will make me think before I enjoy my cup of java. And Guess What????? I can look without being sized up my friends and colleagues for who I find sexually attractive. This is the way is used to be.
I have been out of the business for 2 years. I spent the better part of 5 years in this business, as a BBW Provider. I had some mediocre reviews. I actually got a couple of 10's. But for the most part they were above average. I never lied about the way I looked. I never claimed to be more than what I am. And if a gent asked to see me and his reference was way on the other end of the spectrum in looks, then I made sure he understood the difference. They always did. And I always walked into my dates KNOWING I would F*ck you 6 ways from Sunday and send you home cryin for your mama. And in 5 years, unless they were all lyin to me and in their reviews, no one found me offensive or disgusting or repulsive. And I am bigger than most.
But what we are facing on these boards is a barrage of ugliness. Guys and gals who have discovered the ability to belittle others under an alias. Their own insecurities and misconceptions about intimacy take a turn down an ugly path. It is far easier to berate a "fat" woman on the net than actually have the balls to say it to her face. Threads like the one below don't come from anyone important. They come from the people who hide behind their monitors and hate their lives and jobs and families. They are truly unhappy and the only way they can find solace is to find someone they feel is inferior and kick them down a notch.
Unfortunately for them, the BBW providers in this business, if they have the where with all to stick around, don't take much stock in that crap. We have heard it all. From our mothers, fathers, siblings, SO's, strangers ect. From the fat jokes to being to told we will never accomplish anything if we continue to be fat. Well guess what.....that is as far from the truth as it gets.
Within this industry/hobby, you can stamp it as a commodity and then tear it apart all you want. It accomplishes nothing. Hurting someone gets you no where. It chips away at you, not those you are trying to hurt.
Some men love big, soft women. Some men like women built like 12 year old boys. Some men like rock hard fake breasts and others prefer the company of a woman who is intelligent and makes them think, even if she is physically not societies standard of beautiful. The range is infinite. Allowing these morons a voice is just what they want. The Troll threads are getting annoying. Let's bash someone and get everyone riled up. And then they sit back and what their dirty work. It's revolting.
Let's get back to the beautiful pictures posted by Porn Boy or the wit of Emma Bond and others who make this an enjoyable board. It is time to send the juveniles into time out and concentrate on important matters.
I do love that I am still here..
xoxox
Happy Valentines Day from That Fat Irish Broad with the Bad Attitude
I have been following the threads on this subject below and contemplating just how I wished to respond for responce to such was needed and frankly I do not think I could have ever said it so elequelently as you have. cudos to you and your level head I hope that maybe some of those whom feel that anyone whom is different from their personal ideals of the perfect specimen of the other sex will listen and look at themselves. And maybe even think of learning some of those lesons that there are some in our government and others would like to shut up, such as tolerence of others no matter how they may be different from ourselves be it race, religion, sexual orientation, fetish preferences, smoker vs non smoker.......... the list goes on as long as the human race just as our preferences for certain atributes in those whom we choose to have intimate relations with.
Having been a moderator of boards that had troll problems, I can say with a high degree of certainty that trolls go away if you just ignore them. They don't respond to reason, they don't respond to emotional pleas; these things just rile them up more and encourage them to continue evoking responses. A troll wants only one thing: to get you to respond. They don't care HOW you respond, just so long as you do (although, it generally sours the milk if you agree with them wholeheartedly; they much prefer some kind of conflict).
So let's all try to agree on something. When these posts come along, just ignore them completely. NOBODY respond to them! And they'll go away eventually, because they get bored.
You have managed to say it with a style and clarity few around here can. Your presence here, along with a few others I can think off the top of my head (Sedona for one) is sorely missed.
And to quote you... you can be my "Fat Irish Broad with the Bad Attitude" anyday of the week darlin.
even those men and women have a right to state their opinions.
There is a lot of nastiness on these boards and tons of drama in the chats. There always was in the past; there is today; and there will be tomorrow. Some of us grow up and mature, but we are followed by those younger, maybe less tolerant and younger.
If you want to return to the Garden of Eden, it left us a long time ago. Unless you live in a Red State.
Great post! Let me start off by saying I dont think that im big , but i dont think that i to skinny either! Im pretty happy with the way my body looks ( as everyone that sees me with cloths on say "your so skinny " while they may mean it, it bothers me.
On my reviews page it even says that i have baby fat. My problem is that i am skinny everywher else except for my belly. I have been trying for the past almost 4 years to lose this extra weight, i have even threatened to get myself a personal trainer (which i can never find the time to go get one and th cloest big town to be is an an hour away.
Anyways i seen i guy over this last summer and i was totaly embarrased by the review he gave me. He seemed to have kind of a pain sence of humor, bu i tried to stay relaxed for my sake! As i had made the 4 hr drive and i got the incall and he was on his way i just put on some cloths that was comfortalbe or me, never did he say any request about what he wanted me to wear.
I was a little shocked to read what he had to grip about, which was the choice of cloths that i had on becasue they were not as fancy as i usuly wear. He did make a note that i have a nice body, but pointed out that i have very noticeable stretch marks.
Good God, Im sory about my stretch marks i didnt used to have them but havening a 9lb baby got to me i guess. His review did get to me a little, but i just left it alone and havnt talked to him since. my stretch marks is probably one of the only thiings i dont like i my body. We have a tattoo shop here in town that offers cosmetic tattooing for stretch marks, when i wemt in there to talk to the guy about what we go do, he said what stretch marks do you have?/
Everyone judges everyone differently, but come on guys you need to take it into consideration that even though us ladies are in this hobby we have feelings also, and if your going to pick on us about something, make sure is't s something a little more serious insteas of petty little things like stretch marks.
To tell the truth im to busy making sur your having a good and fun/relaxing time instead of worrying about your flaws. I recenlty posted on my site that i am not a barbie, i am not a super skinny girl and that i do have some meat on my bones and that shoud go to show that at least i am healthy..
secondly your words may be the only reason I consider reading or posting to the boards anymore. All of the slams on BBW's are belittling and disparaging. My understanding was that the posts were not to be mean. I enjoy when Emma puts someone in their place or Nettie self-promotes her interesting life or my beloved Lex always ever self-deprecating. There are an interesting few with a healthy perspective on women bob3950, snowblind, & MrSelfDestruct came to mind. I know I don't have the reputation or following that the above mentioned do, but none-the-less am extremely disappointed with the boards on the whole. I think I'm gonna take a break from y'all for awhile. Take care. Ashlee
being "sized up" by friends and colleagues with regard to whom they find sexually attractive.
In the civi world emotionally insecure men will date women that they believe their peers would like to fuck, but they will seek out providers that they WANT to fuck. Fortunately, most men grow out of it.
I think that the authors of the fat provider bashing posts are men (probably quite young) who are attracted to fat women but who are unable to resolve the dichotomy between their belief that they will gain more social approval if they date conventionally attractive women and their own strong sexual attraction to fat women.
I think in the same way that homophobics are frequently discovered to be latently homosexual, these 'fat bashers' are strongly sexually stimulated by the thought of sex with a fat woman.
BTW, loved your post. It was very eloquent and direct. And thanks for appreciating my 'wit'.
Nicely written, Lass (as usual). I don't even read most of the fat-bashing posts, because it seems that a lot of people, including some other women, can't stand that we women who do not fit our society's standard of beauty can do well in this business. Little do they know.
Not only do you have a voluptuous, womanly body that many men yearn for, but you have a stunningly beautiful face, gorgeous hair, a fabulous mind, and an articulate tongue. Let them eat their hearts out.
If anyone is an expert on articulate tongues, it's Miss Tonsil Hockey Laurel herself.
Sportsfans, here's the deal. ANY woman can do this. You can believe me, or go through the review database. There are some women who no man would consider attractive who make bank and a half.
The last thing I would ever criticize would be a woman's appearance (unless grooming or hygiene were bad). It's just plain wrong and plain mean spirited.
This is my first post on the general discussion board but here goes...couldn't stay quiet on this one...
This subject has been hashed, rehashed and pounded into the ground. These boneheads pop up..shoot off their mouths..stir everyone up and revel in the attention they are getting. Problem is they really are self loathing, hateful excuses for humans that can only feel good about themselves by being so vile to other people. It really is better to just ignore them - hence I'm posting here instead of down the page.
I've been around for...oh gosh going on 5 years now! ...fact is if you're not good at what you do....regardless of the business you are in....regardless of what you look like...you won't succeed. How well this is evidenced by some of the comings and goings of beautiful (as perceived by 'society')providers. They blow onto the scene and some just as quickly disappear because truth of the matter was they sucked (in the worst definition of the word) at 'providing' a good service.
Am I totally estactic about the way I look right now...no..I think we all strive to be 'better or healthier'. What I do know is I love the PERSON I am....I know I treat people with respect...I know how to make someone feel good (inside and out)and I whole heartedly believe that these are key to being a beautiful person. I know if you make people feel good they want to be around you. Heck who wants to hang out with someone that makes them feel bad?
Some have asked me if it bothers me that my reviews rate me as plain...nope not at all...I know I'm not a raving beauty in the physical sense. I know that if a gentleman contacts me it may be because he is attracted to BBWs, a mature woman, a busty woman, a redhead...but there is also a good chance that he is a gentleman who is attracted to a woman who has a way of making him feel comfortable - one who loves what she does and it shows. Confidence is sexy - I am very confident that he will leave me feeling good..not only physically but mentally. THAT is what keeps me here and enjoying what I do. I won't be going anywhere til I'm darn good and ready...how long that will be is anyone's guess..but until that time - I'm here and damn proud of myself!
...It is not only BBW's that come in for a hard time. It is black providers, too pricey providers, too cheap providers and goodness knows who else.
The internet offers a priceless opportunity for promotion of your business but the downside is having to deal with twerps that have personal agendas. But that is part of the game.
At the end of the day the moderators are there to deal with gratuitous abuse, but if you lay it out on the line then you are subject to comment and censure, whether reasonable or not. Goes with the territory.
YOU ROCK! Different strokes for different folks. If there are guys ignorant enough to believe that a BBW provider can not rock there world, they need to spend a few hours with Kim Kelly or Laurel. I can personally vouch for the fact that they will alter your thinking.
I am sorry that I did not know about this board 2 years ago.
I've dated fat women all my life, and I'd never have it any other way. Skinny girls don't do a thing for me. A fat chick will give you a hell of a ride. If you've never tried one, guys, you're missing something.
And I'm not ashamed of it or in the closet about it. There's not a woman in the world that I'd sleep with that I wouldn't be happy to be seen with anywhere.
A BBW must have a lovely personality and must provide exceptional service to survive in the escort business. They have to work harder to please hobbyists in order to compete with the hard body escorts. And BBWs often offer rates that are lower than the average in the area.
I have visited my first BBW recently and she was super friendly and played with me almost two hours even though I paid for only an hour session. On top of that, she charged me only one-third the going hourly rate. Because of my GFE experience with this affectionate woman, I know I will try other BBWs in the future.
If a hobbyist can find a way to deviate from what society defines as beautiful, then there is a good chance he will find an intense inner beauty that is more attractive than beauty that is only skin deep.
I'm a little late to this parade, but here it goes.......
Gosh, where to begin??? As someone who loves bigger gals, it truly *sucks* that this is what we have to deal with because what we like is a little different than what 98% of other men lust after. It also doesn't help that society and the "locker room mentality" that prevails makes me feel like a freak on a daily basis because of this. This is why myself and many others who enjoy these types of women aren't entirely honest with the people surrounding them in everyday life, kinda like being homosexual and "in the closet". It the secrets that some of us have to keep and guard with every ounce of being that we have in fear of extreme ridicule. That's why the internet, and especially this site, have been more than therapeutic in my journeys.
Many thanks to Celtic Lass & Devin Taylor and the many others who have chimed in with their eloquent responses and put these morons in their place.
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