The screening process for many girls has become a problem for me. I understand they have a right to feel safe and discreet. But they want so much imformation out of me that I can not see them. Why isn't my listed home phone# enough? They always ask to contact me at work. I am a school teacher and I have a morals clause in my contract. If they were to "kiss and tell" I could lose my job.
What is something I can give to satisfy them without giving up my own privacy?
Any suggestions?
providers who aren't so tough on screening.
I think writing reviews may help but doing that won't guarantee they'd not ask you for work info.
Providers can better answer these questions than I.
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I'm sure if you explain the reason you just gave, many providers will work with you.
While we're here, I'm curious about your morals clause. What does it say?
The clause basically states that any "act" by the employee considered immoral as to set a bad public example as to the kids would be grounds for voiding the contract. Most believe it is looking to sexual perversions with the kids (child laws cover that stuff without a morals clause), but I know of a teacher who was arrested for soliciting a prostitute and was fired. Then I know of another who was caught by the police masturbating in his car and he was fired.
I think soliciting escorts would qualify in those areas of the morals clause.
I would hate to think a girl would call my school and cause a fuss, but one just never knows. Once that is on your file, just try finding another teaching job....
I have seen people get fired for getting caught masturbating in public and for soliciting. I have also seen them get fired for getting caught high on drugs with drugs in their possesion. So your situation is not unique. Another poster stated how you can handle this, tell the lady about your concerns beforehand, this will allow her to make a decision on whether she wants to risk having you as a client. You can try agencies and ladies that do not screen at all, but you need to be 100% sure that they are not going to retain any information that can be linked to you.
Many educational institutions and non-profits (as well as some corporations I might imagine) have a morals cause in their contract. Anyone who is curious should look into this themselves- you may be surprised. Personally, I did give out my work info once, but I got so worried about it afterwards I think I gave myself an ulcer. Will never do that again...
You could try RS2000 as one option. Otherwise give them only the information you are comfortable with and if that is not enough move on.
I have issues with some of the ladies and what they do and how long they keep our information and how safe it is. After they have gone through their screening process, there is NO reason to kep other than a first name and last 4 digits of their contact number for future reference.
Another option is if you write reviews, tell them to verify you that way and you can send them a PM to verify who you are.
I will not give out my work number, for any reason. Bad experience.
What was your bad experience?
I can understand your dilema. I saw a gent once that was a schoolteacher and verification wasn't a problem.
I understood that I couldn't call to check up on him lol. Teachers in Florida are licensed and registered through the state. Going to the Florida info website I was able to verify that he was a teacher (all the website stated is that you are currently licensed not his school district or school). That with a listed phone should be enough. Afterall, you are willing to give a listed phone number.
While we do need to feel safe, so do you. Maybe you can check to see if you have the same kind of website we do here. It's not worth risking your livelyhood.
xoxox
Missy
screening is critical for a lady's safety, obviously, but there are many ways to verify an individual. i'm confident that most ladies would understand your situation if you explained it and work with you.
good luck and happy hobbying!
cheers!
~jordan
Then, make sure they remember who you are so you can use them for a reference. If a new lady wants more than a reference, see someone else.
My experience is that the ladies that are the most demanding about screening information leave my life as soon as our session is over. It is up to me to contact them if I want another session.
The two worst experiences that I have ever had with escorts came from two that did not screen at all. The first used my home phone number to pass herself off as my wife, and actually got away with it a couple of times, running up bills at department stores. The second was a nice young lady when I saw her, but somehow got involved with the wrong crowd sometime after. She called me one night, out of the blue, a full three years after I had seen her, asking whether I wanted a date. She sounded like she had been through hell and asked whether I could drive in to see her because some guy had knocked the windows out on her car. She also sounded like she was missing some teeth. I sat for a while after her call wondering how and why she had kept my phone number for as long as she did.
So my friend, keep thinking that having a lady doing no or little screening gives you protection. You are surely in for an awakening. I hope that your SO does not pick up the call before you do.
I have a separate cell phone that only I answer. I usually keep it turned off unless I want to make a call. If I don't give out any information, including my real last name and where I live or work, how is an escort going to cause me any trouble?
Obviously, the escort who caused you all the trouble didn't need to screen, you voluntarily gave her your home phone, home address, and last name without her asking for it. No offense, but it is guys like you who get caught or have trouble.
...in fact you have to show two examples of excess to even be considered for membership. It wasn't until I'd augmented my alcoholism with womanizing, that they sent me an invitation to join.
Thanks for the comments all. I have tried all those things. I guess I will just have to keep trying. I was just hoping a girl or two would give me some advice besides, "tell them of your situation (teacher)..." that I have done but it has only worked a few times. I had one girl offer me a discount because I am a teacher.
I have tried lying...making stuff up...but i ahve driven for about 90 minutes in traffic only to find out at the last second that the girl did check me out and found out I lied and then cancelled our appointment. BUMMER. This is the kind of thing I am trying to avoid....frustration!
Anyway, it just seems to me that the screening process has gotten more stringent and detailed. Harder to get through!
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