would you say something?
Yes, of course, if it was a burning sensation when you pee, but...
Just a sore throat and slight cough. 3-4 days after a session and they're the only person you swapped spit with in that time period.
I wouldn't want to come off as accusatory. Everyone gets a cold, but is it appropriate to ask how they're feeling?
In my case, it's someone I've known for several years if that makes any difference.
And no, I haven't tested for Covid, yet.
Why not get tested first.. See if you even caught an STD or not, before saying something to her.. It could be just cold and/or some UTI.
If you did catch STD, then I think you owe it to the person you were with to let them know.
I just saw an old friend who had Covid & he got it from a provider. She toured his area, and even sent out a group email stating she had Covid. He had it & gave it to his mom who he cares for it’s real.
If you don’t feel well be honest & communicate with the people you share your time with. I personally prefer to cancel if you don’t feel well. As a single mother of two young children & now I care for my sister who has medical issues I don’t want to risk getting my household ill. 😷
I do at home Covid tests, but still feel the need to go in person if I don’t feel well. STD’s are real, so I try to lower my risks. I used to go get tested after every encounter. 😆 Now you can get tests mailed to your home. Options…
She toured his area, and even sent out a group email stating she had Covid. …
to even mention a condition that could also be acquired by a cough or a sneeze. You don't need to kiss to catch a cold, the flu, or Covid. A grown man whining about catching a cold is not a good look on anybody. How can you be 100% certain you got it from the provider and not by being near a cough or sneeze in your daily activities? You can't, so you ignore your assumptions, which could be false, and don't say a word.
its probably COVID or some other respiratory thing. if those prove negative , then STD would be next step although not many give you a sore throat .. please note some like syphilis take up to 30 days to show up on a test
but COVID first and if lasts more than a week i would see an ENT or family MD (ear nose throat)
Cold Viruses are everywhere we go....everything we touch has the ability to transfer cold, flu, etc....handles on a grocery cart, a Home Depot Cart, any public restroom, airplanes, the list goes on....Last bad cold I got I know it was from a fella wheezing my way on a flight from Atlanta to Dallas.....you don't have to "Swap Spit" with someone to catch a cold.....touch something they with the cold has touched...then touch your eye, nose, etc....and if you are susceptible.....Bang....You Got It !
Regardless, I would see my doctor and get tested. Just to see what the reason was for me being sick.
and you're feeling some rather generic cold type symptoms? Did you go to the office or out shopping for something or generally interact with others in some closed space?
If it was the next day I might think it was the provider but for cold symptions I would not get trying to chase anything or anyone down. If it's COVID maybe think -- though I personally think of COVID much as I do about Influenza (dangerous for some always, might be a special strain that is dangerous but generally don't worry) -- but unlikely that I would put it on the provider without at least getting tested and some better assessment of date of infection.
If it's someone you've known for years, you are in a better position to know if informing her is a good or bad idea.
For all you know you could have picked it up from somewhere and given it to HER. You don't need close physical contact to spread respiratory viruses.
I'd probably reach out to her and say something like " a few days after I saw you I came down with some URI - not sure if I had it when I saw you so I just wanted to know if you're feeling alright".
I certainly wouldn't accuse her of giving it to me.