...and I learned all I know from a pro. 😎
Just not with everyone. Lol
but I am also a touchy, feely type who enjoys sensuality.
There is something really wonderful about cuddling as strange as it sounds. Feeling her breathe, the warmth of her body, the smell of her hair or perfume. It's a most peaceful feeling.
Maybe one day I'll opt to get back into the dating scene so I can remember that feeling. Maybe...
It's easier than massage and it's Healthy for you.
Human touch is needed and is more and more a
SERVICE that is provided.
touch...skin to skin contact...all that jazz
And as has been said several times, it is essential for health.
but trying to throttle back to cuddle when I'm super-horny sure doesn't, lol.
Post coitol cuddles is one of my favorite things to do with a client. It's nice to just relax and feel their body next to yours.
And having sex with someone without it just isn't as good. I checked out a couple cuddle buddy websites once, ghost towns unfortunately so I found a cheap hooker and spent an hour just cuddling. She told me the only other person to request that was a man who had recently lost his wife. It's not something I would pay for on the regular because sex, but it was a really good experience.
Partly because of age and physical condition--or lack thereof--but also because it makes me feel good in a different way than sex.
regular LA Kgirls. I was actually surprised that she wanted to cuddle and have body contact the whole night through. Of course, turning the thermostat down to 65 helps, too.
I think a girl who sleeps "close to you" all night is a girl who actually likes the physical contact with you rather than the girl who is just faking it to get paid. Those women will typically push you away in the middle of the night.
Yes, count me in as one of those guys who likes to cuddle. (and I always turn the thermostat down to 65 when having an overnight guest too. lol)
where the girl doesn't want any body contact at all during sleep time. If they put their panties and top back on to sleep, you know her bod is off-limits until morning. This recent one was one of the most connected I've had for an outside girlfriend. When you are awakened because she's fondling your dick and kissing your neck, leading to middle-of-the-night sex, you know she's genuinely into you and its not just a service. She's got a vacation coming up, so we will go somewhere for a week, probably Hawaii, OTC, but I will pay all expenses as is my usual practice with working girls that have morphed into outside girlfriends.
I have a hard time falling asleep when someone's touching me. It doesn't really have anything to do w/how much I like or dislike the person. When I feel a touch, I wake up.
If I've been sleeping heavily, and wake up (like in the AM) I can remain in the drowse/sleepy state and even fall back asleep when someone's holding me. But if I'm trying to get to sleep at night, I'll wake up whenever I get touched (and yes, I'll get quite grumpy if that goes on for a few hours).
Even with boyfriends... I remember falling asleep w/someone else only when I had A LOT to drink. Other times, I'd cuddle w/him until he fell asleep, then would wriggle away once I heard him start to snore. Then I'd fall asleep. Sometimes we both just went to sleep in our own spaces.
It's not only about getting woken up. Guys are usually the holders - girls are usually the hold-ees. When someone has an arm over me, I feel like I can't move or scratch an itch w/o disturbing him. If he snores, it's right in my ear. If he breathes, it's in my neck (and sometimes it feels really uncomfortable when my hair starts to stick to my neck). Sometimes I've felt uncomfortable, and have shifted... only to have the other person pull me in tighter. Also sometimes people sweat when they're pressed together skin to skin.
I'll admit that when I dislike a client, my skin just crawls when he touches me in my sleepy state. It's harder to act through it when you're half asleep. But I try not to do (or repeat) overnights w/gents toward whom I have that reaction. In most cases, I'd rather suggest an 8-hour date (pleading an early AM class or a 7AM flight), take less money, and keep my sanity.
and since you are not a "holder" of course in your experience the "girl" is the "holdee" My experience is a bit different. In many of my LTRs we'd switch being the "holder and the holdee" periodically during the night, taking turns holding each other. You are admittedly NOT a snuggler so it would be rare for you to ever be the "holder" don't you agree?
I completely agree, you are the type of girl who should NOT offer overnight dates. It's obvious you don't enjoy them and it's going to be VERY plain to anyone who shares a bed with you overnight that it's something you clearly don't enjoy.
Actually I think you made my point better than I did. lol
We're all different.
As I said, I prefer cuddling in the AM. At that time, I actually can fall in/out of sleep w/someone holding me, or touching me. It's just getting to sleep when I need some space around me. A LOT of people find it hard to fall asleep w/a new partner, even in civvie life. So some guys are actually completely on the same page with me there.
I'm upfront about my preferences (and need for at least a few hours of leave-me-alone sleep), so the bad experiences I've had on overnights mainly occurred when guys did not respect my stated needs. For instance, a guy who held me all night, and pinned me down to the extent that my arm fell asleep. I never got to sleep at all that night. I don't think he did, either.
I know I talk to a lot of guys who say they can't stand having a woman hang all over them while they are trying to sleep. These are the very same guys who would NEVER book an overnight, and usually come out to berate those of us who do. You know the "why would you pay a woman to sleep?" crowd.
Some of us like it, others don't. There is no shame in admitting you are one of those who does NOT like it. You are posting from behind an alias, so it's not like admitting it is going to cost you business.
I OTOH like sleeping with a woman. I enjoy having a nice warm soft body in my bed next to me. I love morning sex and I really love the fact that if she's a paid date she is going to leave before I even get out of bed and I won't have to entertain her all morning. Well unless we plan on staying in bed all day, then I want her to stay. lol
SOME people do book overnights because they want to cuddle all night.
Others... when it was time for sleep... they were basically like, 'Bye, see you in the AM!'
A few have even specifically told ME that they needed their beauty rest due to a work meeting the next day (these were business travelers)!
Not everyone wants or needs to cuddle all night in order to enjoy spending the night with someone. Some people like to fall asleep and wake up with the same person... then, they like the morning sex 
But like me, maybe they just want a solid few hours of shut-eye in between. Cuddle time is cuddle time, playtime is playtime... sleepy time is sleepy time.
We are all different.
Those really are not difficult (or unreasonable) or even unusual requests for providers doing overnights. Or even unusual preferences from the guys who book overnights themselves.
Some of these men would be just as miserable as I would, if I were to try to hug and poke them all night!
Whatever we have to do to wake up in the AM happy... THAT should dictate how we behave during an overnight. Because the point is to have fun.
I guess we'll now have to call you and fishbro "The Cuddler."
Google to find weird shit like this?
Read and see:
The link posted by fish doesn't lead to any "paid service"
If you are going to post dumb, inane drivel, please at least try to make it relevant dumb, inane drivel
Before, the cuddling establishes bodily contact and ramps up the heat. After, the cuddling establishes that you care about one another's feelings, IOW, you're not just pieces of meat.
You're welcome.
As for me, I prefer fucking. And then they leave. No sleepy-bye, no cuddling. Unless I cuddle up to some vodka.
with some vodka (tequila) interspersed in between, works just fine for me too.
There's something about those weird smiles.
Anyone else think so?
They could be Moonies.
"Moonied" if they're facing away from you during the cuddle.
For $60, there should at least be a happy ending!!!
Maybe TER could add that to providers' profiles under "Services offered"--"cuddle"
is a great mental (and physical awakening) stimulation to get ready for another round.
Read and see:
Always is the way to go.
I Love to Cuddle! Especially when it's cold and rainy!