It's not a long piece. Just a little taste of what it's like for female sex workers.
At least when sex work is legal, like it is in Australia, short pieces like this can be normal.
the first reason they have for wanting to leave the escort business is not the legal threat, or the threat of violence, or even the day-in, day-out humdrum, but the difficulty they have in establishing a romantic, long term relationship with someone.
It's pretty sad to contemplate.
Will society ever rise to the level where the fact a gal does sex work has no more taint than being an actress, say?
Sure it will change. When self righteous religion and possesive arseholes go away.
Sadly, not any time soon.
I can understand someone thinking that it's not for them, but the prejudicial discrimination that is carried on is disgusting.
No matter what, intimate relationships are difficult. But, can be so worthwhile when done well.
According to polls, 50% of women think prostitution should be illegal, compared to 36% of men.
Women have been and will always be the major force keeping prostitution illegal.
Fucking woman! Ruin everything .
>Will society ever rise to the level where the fact a gal does sex work has no more taint than being an actress, say?
Probably not, or at least not society as you know it. We have a few thousand years of instincts pointing us toward the nuclear family and monogamy as a basis of survival. I don't think you can really blame religion for that, because religion (or ones that care to comment on it anyway) is just mirroring the natural order of things that were needed to survive and efficiently pass genetic material on to our offspring.
Realistically, we're just seeing the faintest sliver of what reproductive choice and STD prevention will eventually do to our society.
The idea of "rising above" something is inherently positive. We have no way of knowing if going against the ideas (instincts really) that brought our species to the top of the food chain will ultimately be to our benefit in a few thousand years. Sure it might make people feel better in the meantime, which is not without value, it just might not actually be better.
>sad to contemplate
I don't know that an escort finding love because she changed carriers is a terrible thing, or to put it another way, just because you're disenfranchised with love doesn't mean that the majority are.
But I think you've been at this a lot longer than I have.
What I have heard from several providers is that they feel spoiled by their clients, who treat them better than any guy they've ever dated.
I also know several providers who are in committed relationships. They found the right guy (or gal) somehow and are making it stick in spite of their sex work. One of my favs recently separated from her long-time SO. It had nothing to do with her sex work--he was fine with that. It was because she learned over time that "he's an asshole." Might be some of that "clients treat me better" rearing up.
As for the rest of the article, it's fine but kinda thin gruel. I suppose it may be of some help to guys who think hookers hang upside down in the closet like bats when not working. But the reality is there are as many reasons for girls getting into the life as there are girls. Sure, that's a bit of an exaggeration, but only a bit.
As for her "example #1," if the guy's only been with 40 women in his life (or even 40 hookers) he's not much of a monger.
As for the article I don't see a bit of new ground being broken. Yes, being a hooker is still something society frowns on regardless of it's legal status. That's not really front page news.
I think about the only women I can be honest with about my "number" are hookers, and even then I have had hookers of all people eliminate me as a potential boyfriend because my "number" was too high. I guess I can't really blame them, I guess it would be rather delusional for a woman who knows that she is number 3,467 in a long and growing list is going to make the guy fall in love with her and forsake all others in order to be with her and only her. lol
When a woman who is CONSIDERING a relationship with me hears about how many women I have had (about 2500 to date), and seems put off for the reasons you allude to, I also point to the 16 years of marriage where I was with just ONE woman, remained completely faithful, and still had an awesome sex life, just so she knows I am CAPABLE of a long-term commitment, but it takes an extraordinary woman to get me to MAKE that commitment.
Don't you know your primary stalker LilMamasan has cut and pasted this into her archives and will use it against you when it suits her? Then again, perhaps (like me) you just don't give a shit.
looking at ME, bub?
The problem with LilMamasan is he can't tell the serious from the jocular, even though he probably wears jocular shorts to keep his balls from sagging to his knees. I pretty much stopped giving a shit a long time ago. He has made himself largely irrelevant to me. (No pun was intended by the term, "largely", but it is what it is, right?) I've had two OTC overnighters in February, so there is nothing he can say to piss me off anyway right now. Life is good for me, and it sucks to be him, so there it is.
Nah, never called it a blowie. But, I haven't lived in Australia for a long time.
And I don't think the boyfriend was a monger. Just a boyfriend, so 40 is a pretty good number for non serial fuckers.
It is a pretty vanilla article, but my point in posting it was more about the culture that mainstream media publishes human interest articles, however lame, as part of a culture that doesn't legally prosecute such activities and professions. But, it also shows that though legal, there are still prejudicial cultural challenges for sex workers.
sex workers having a hard time to find relationships? of course, what do you expect?