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a delicate dilema...help!!!!
BackDoorGirl 3964 reads
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Here I go again, me and the little battles I face in this wonderful world of ours.

I have a delicate situation to deal with and I'm freaking pulling my hair and losing my patience too.

All started couple years ago.

I had a multiple hours session with this gentleman.

He does have a high sex drive, not a problem for me. We had a very energetic time, but, when I was going down on him he let a stinky go right in my face. Jeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez, that turned me OFF completely and he did that not only once, but few times.

The session was great, great guy, but...WHY on Earth he did that?

It was nauseating, but I am a real professional and I finished the session on a high note. I was being well paid and I gave him the best of me.

Since then, this guy keeps trying to book me. No matter where I travel to, every week he calls, mails and calls.

The excuse of "sorry I'm booked for today" doesn't work anymore. Actually I'm running out of excuses:

- (him) "hey can you see me today for 2 or 3 hours"
- (me) "oh sorry but I'm booked"
- (him) "what about tomorrow?"
- (me) "sorry but I'm booked too"
- (him) "damn, what about the day after?"
- (me) "I will be in LA"
- (him) "oh that's not a problem, I can catch a red eye and be there with you in the morning"
- (me) "oh really? damn I'm looking at my planner now and unfortunately I'm booked in LA too"

This kind of dialog has been going on for 2 years...and he doesn't get a hint about me avoiding him like a plague.

You can say, do not answer the phone. Yeah I tried that, I had his business and personal number memorized and I let my phone rings & rings.

But he got clever and started to call me from different numbers with different area codes too.

Is like he is stalking me. If I am in LA, he's there. If I am in Chicago, he's there. If I am in Toronto, he's there. No matter where I go to work, he's THERE!

On the top of all...he's an active member of TER too, with tons of reviews,  so I cannot tell him FUCK OFF!!!!

But, I'm in that point of hiring a hit man to take care of him....any volunteers?

lol

HELP!!!!!




-- Modified on 2/9/2006 7:18:04 AM

anon5566442455 reads

You have decided to never see him again. He is the only one that doesn't get it. What about just telling the truth, or some version of it? Worst case: you have given up a few of his friends.

EasyEnough1564 reads

I do not know how long it has actually been since you lost saw him....2 years? Long time things might have changed.  

But like us hobbyists we need to research the ladies....if this customer is a very active hobbyist and writes many reviews.....contact the ladies and ask them if they had the same experience....your date might be an isolated experienced.

If you findings are contrary....move on and let him know that you did not enjoy the last experience.  If your findings are isolated experience....what harm is it to see this hobbyist again.  AND....if it does happen again.....stop at that very instance it happens and let him know that his actions are not acceptable and it ruins the mood......

Take a time out....few minutes....see how he reacts......finish the date, and by his prior actions during the time out.......make your decision right there to tell him, if you wish to see him again, or not.

Or is there something else to this that is troubling......that we do not know about?

The best solution is to tell him you really do not like his farts. He may just become a great client that has figured out not to have that bean burrito before he comes to visit you. If you can not tell people the way you feel you will loose out on much in life.

His mommy never payed any attention to his needs. Now he'll have his revenge by farting on her ! Little feller obviously wants to be noticed. Pathetic twerp needs major therapy.

..."I recently saw Lex Luethor, and now he's the only man I see."

I'm sure a lot of guys get that already, so it would probably pass as believeable.

Unless, of course, *I* am the client you're talking about, in which case...nevermind. :S

anon5566441845 reads

Could you please back channel me so that I can share a private message with you?

maybe the guy has a fart fetish. I agree, tell him the truth to determine the cause of his rude behavior. You don't sound like you are going to miss the money so put your cards on the table. When you didn't say anything about it, maybe he thought you "enjoyed" it...

While I understand you're hesitance to being strqaight forward with him, but is there any harm in telling him that the two of you just aren't compatible?  Or that you don't feel comfortable with him?  Or how about, "I won't see you anymore?"  Providers have the right of refusal & should be able to do so without fear  retaliation.  My ATF slearly states on her website that she is no longer accepting new clients.  Isn't that the same thing?

what happened the last time and ask him if he was just too embarrassed about it or if he makes a habit of doing vile things like farting in someone's face? Some people have digestive tract problems. Perhaps you sparked some Cryptonite in him, other than sexual juices. Ooh, Ciara!  Anyway, you're going to have to tell him or he'll keep calling you. He's probably already seen the message you posted if he's an avid TER reader. If you feel it's necessary to tell a white lie, then be nice to him and just tell him you now have one special friend. :)

Hugs,
Ciara

That story doesn't work if she's still reviewed.  Honesty works best, even though it may be uncomfortable.  Seems to me like the choices are: continue to swerve & ignore, or tell him that you don't like being farted on.

Come on now we are not children could you do this with your wife?????Why would you want to???  This behavior is just plain rude.  And it goes without saying unattractive.  Someone needs to tell him to go see a manners coach or find  a finishing school.  He should be sleeping with animals not people if he thinks that was an okay thing to do. Sorry but it's not rocket science people.

-- Modified on 2/9/2006 2:41:24 PM

pussyliker2107 reads

Ask him if he ever heard of a new form of foreplay called "Pull My Finger".Instead of yanking on Mr.Happy,start with his index finger.Yank that sucker until he's done putt-putting!Gives a new meaning to the term "hand job" LOL!

He's just acting like he doesn't get it.  I mean, if he's everywhere you go, and has persisted this long, he's just not taking responsibility for understanding you.  He wants you to come clean about what your problem is with him.  He definitely didn't know how much it would ice up your libido.

I think you should try coming clean with him about it.  I think this is what he wanted, short of a session.  This might not work now.  You definitely should have told him before.  Now that he has wasted his time for a few years insisting on booking you, he might be too mean-spirited to stop, but at least then, you know you have a stalker.  

Another idea: if the chemistry isn't totally spoiled you might agree to another session, but tell him straight out that you're not into that, and if he does it one more time, you're out the door immediately (taking half the gift) and through doing business with him for good.    

historian052974 reads

are you the same lady that had a problem with the man with bad teeth?  You MUST learn how to communicate with guys.  Tell him nicely that he is a great buy but you didn't like the stinky part of the experience.  And next time he calls, be honest, tell him that he is becoming too close to you and that's not a good thing and that he shouldn't contact you because of it.  The board isn't the nicest way to hurt someone, you need to tell the person and not bring the public into these things.  PM him and let him know this or tell  him next time he calls.  Put yourself in these peoples shoes, picture a guy writing a post about the backdoorgirl having poor hygene or getting too close to a client.  You won't want that to happen.  me neither

Reminds me of the guy who heard about 69 but didn't know what it was. He set up a rendez-vous with a professional and told her what he wanted. She explained the position, they assumed it and got started.

Suddenly, SHE cut loose with a serious stinky! He jumped out of bed and she apologized profusely. They resumed the position, but 3 licks later and she does it again. Aplogizing, she said, that it must have been the beans she ate for lunch.

Once again they start, and once again she has the same embarassing release. The young man gets up and starts to put his clothes on.

Our heroine, dismayed, asks why he is going.

The young man responds, "Ma'am, thanks for everything, but I just don't think that I can TAKE another 66 of those...!"

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