Reached out a well-reviewed, long time provider on here with everything they asked for:
- my full name
- email
-phone  
- two verifiable references

Went back n' forth with the scheduler for a bit and finally got hit with a, "send me a selfie of you, while holding two forms of identification, one of which MUST be your drivers license with your address showing."

I refused and the scheduler wouldn't go any further with me. Is this normal after providing two references? I've been hobbying for 15 years and have never seen anything like this.

I do require a photo of you holding your ID because that’s how I know it’s actually you. If you send just a photo of your ID how can I verify it’s actually you? Requiring references from providers you have never met is odd. Why trust anyone who does not know you personally?

...from kgirl bookers. I gave up seeing them at least 8 years ago in part due to their ridiculously strict vetting process. It's waaaay too much personal info to give anyone, much less a stranger. It's especially dubious when you've already submitted multiple references. Good for you for walking away.