Newbie - FAQ

tipping?
cheargentina 1687 reads
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is it customary to tip a provider?  if so how much?

...it's appreciated but not expected. Consider how much they get for an hour. It's ok if you believe they went beyond expectations.

Use the search function here. You'll find many discussions of this. When searching change the number of days searched to 100, 200, or more.

The best tip you can give is a to see her again if you had a great time.  If I've seen someone on a repeated basis, I will review her website to see if she has a "wish list".  

Tipping really is a personal choice whether to or not, same with the amount of the tip

The ladies are not dependent on tipping and they are setting the rates they feel are appropriate for their services.   Just as I would not tip a lawyer, a doctor, an electrician, a plumber and so on, I am not inclined to tip a lady.   This is particularly so if this is a lady that I want to see again, not only because of the oft repeated line that seeing her again is a tip, but because of the precedent it would set.   For example, if I don't tip the next time, is she going to think that I did not enjoy it as much?   So, in a very real sense, if I tip a lady I want to see in the future, I feel that I am increasing her rate, and really, why should I pay more than the next guy?  

A long time ago, I used to see agency ladies, and not so long ago, I also used to see stripclub ladies (thanks TER and P411 for getting me out of that!).   When it came to agency ladies, I felt more of a sense of needing to tip, because I knew that the lady was only keeping a certain percentage of what I was paying.  Likewise, with the stripclub ladies I saw at the club, not those who would see me outside of the club, they are paying a substantial fee for their time in the VIP room.

In my case there are a few things that I think about as a tip.   I am not a fan of reviews, but alas, this is a review site after all, and as much as I don't like to share, I will do so partly as a 'thank you' to a lady I really enjoyed spending time with - the other part of the motivation is to contribute, at least a little bit, to the general cause.     I will also gladly reply to pms from other folks who are thinking about seeing someone I have reviewed.  Again, partly to thank the lady and partly to contribute to the cause.

Finally, I am also not a fan of the dinner dates and such, not at $200/h, $300/h, $400/h plus for the time spent in public, particularly if I have not met the lady on a previous occasion.    Even if I am traveling, which is when most of my dates take place, I can have a good time dining at the bar with other patrons.  However, if it is someone I have seen before, if I really like their company and if I know that I am going to make an effort to see them multiple times, I may certainly do a dinner date.   In the lady's mind, this would not be a tip, after all, they have to spend time with me and be 'on,' but it is something that I would not normally do, and as much as I may enjoy the company, it is also partly done to thank the lady

Particularly with the agency part.   I still use agencies periodically and I do tend to tip for the exact reasons you mention below.

Posted By: Pangloss[/username
When it came to agency ladies, I felt more of a sense of needing to tip, because I knew that the lady was only keeping a certain percentage of what I was paying.  
 

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is like a $XXX tip.

I have been seeing the same exceptional lady for over a year now. I have seen a few others during that time, too.  

But, ever since about the third time I saw my favorite, I added an extra amount to my donation to compensate her for emails (and later, text messages) we exchanged between meetings. She may very well communicate with other clients as much as she does with me (or maybe even more) at no charge, but that is none of my business. I want her to know that I appreciate her time "off the clock" and that I do not take it for granted.  

I do also think she provides exceptional services for our times together and have never felt other than I was getting far more than I was paying for. Every time.

I have the same reasons as you do as why I regularly tip.  Only once I hadn't but I intended that in lieu of giving a bad review.

Honestly, I have been very lucky in seeing providers so far (except for that one) who have given me far more than what I have given them.  A tip is where I try to show appreciation for that imbalance.

Cheers to you both!

   I never expect a tip, as I agree that the best tip is a return visit.

   I have many dear friends with whom I exchange social e-mails with, and all are very appreciative.  I truly enjoy hearing about professional promotions, new grand babies, vacations, etc.  My gentlemen know that social mail is replied to when I have time.

   Many ladies refrain from social e-mails, but my roi in phenominal.  Not only have I received generous monetary tips, but gentlemen have sent me e-cards for everything from Amazon, to Neiman's.  I never expect it, but when I open my mail in the morning, and find that a gentleman sent me a little something for no reason, I grin from ear to ear.  What a great way to begin my day!

Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly

I tip waitresses and waiters well but they make a crappy wage, and they rely on tips to make up for it.

I'm not sure what it says about me that I don't tip providers? I have given a provider friend a birthday gift bag, but that was a friend giving a friend a Birthday gift. I'll do the thoughtful thing and bring her favorite drink ( from her P411 page), one lady I brought her favorite flower, but a cash tip, no.  

I also never negotiate, I've researched her, I know what her donation requirement is for the amount of time that I've requested and the envelope is always right.

I guess I've figured that she's determined what her time is worth, and honestly money shouldn't be part of any other transaction past the envelope.

My $.02

I go over in time and she doesn't push me to finish right on time or she seems to not mind that I've gone over.

Beyond seeing her again... give her a review that shows how much you enjoyed the time together. You wouldn't believe what a great review does for a lady (her reading how much you like it and also the additional business she will obtain because of it)

 

Posted By: cheargentina
is it customary to tip a provider?  if so how much?

I never expect someone to tip me but, there are some very generous people out there. I have received cash, jewlery, wine, chocolates and gift cards as thank you gestures. I never expect them but when it happens (a lot of times in the beginning of the date) I am surprised and made to feel like a princess. It is nice to be spoiled by those who enjoy your company but I never ever expect it and if it doesn't happen I am okay with that too!

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