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I love that "naughty young man who lives down the street" scenario 
If someone is interested in a very specific role-play scene, I want them to get very specific with me before we meet, particularly with something like you are describing. When you get out of your car at my place the scene is on...by this time we have discussed what you are hoping for and I like to immerse in it immediately.
So yes, keep looking, you are bound to find someone who enjoys creating a scene for you that will satisfy all parties!
Well, because setting the right type of scene is very important for me, and I enjoy the planning and the anticipation I know is building in the bottom, I am happy to exchange emails or chat online, or even talk on the phone until I am sure I know what he wants and what I want to do. Then I assure my vic...er...subject that I am prepared and he just needs to be patient. For instance, I have a Gent I see once a month...during the month I will email him hints and teases about what I have planned for our next scene. I like to do that even if it is someone I will only see once, but their session is scheduled far enough in advance that I have that ability. But that is just me...lots of Dommes don't want to talk about things on the phone (which I don't understand) and they have no interest in exchanging emails or chatting unless what you want is what they want.
I might suggest that you offer to pay whatever the going rate is for a phone session with a Domme...make it clear you are not interested in a phone session but a real live session and you'd like the phone time to discuss with her your desires and what she can do for you. That way, she is still getting something for her time and you can be assured that she is the one you want to see for real, and if not, you are not out 200 or 300 dollars and unhappy and unsatisfied. Keep in mind that we Dommes also have our own desires and we will want to incorporate our own little twists in your session, so don't be rigid in your desires, allow a little wiggle room Finally, remember that what you have is a fantasy, and fantasy and reality are not always the same...no matter how confident you may be in the Domme you finally choose, you may still walk away feeling disappointed and unfortunately there is nothing we can do about that.
Hope this helps and I hope you find exactly what you need.