Let me start by saying that what I am about to relate is most likely a crazy string of bad luck but a this point I'm thinking it useful to ask the community just in case there is maybe something I'm missing.
Context: I have been hobbying for over 30 years, mostly in Atlanta. About 22 months ago I left the city but travel back frequently for work. In my return visits during these months I am staying at usually 3 and 4 star hotels. My last morning in town I usually get a late checkout and try to schedule a 90 min or 2 hours outcall with a companion of my choosing. The problem is in 18 attempts now I've only been successful 3 times and two of them were with the same lady. Each time, I pass the screening, the date is confirmed the afternoon before but then sometime around 9 tor 10 pm I get a text saying something came up. To add insult to injury I have usually purchased gifts, etc to make our time together memorable, often either in specific sizes or favorite colors and even if I were to want to reach out to someone else it is in most cases too late. The thing is I never had this problem when I lived in the city seeing ladies both incall and outcall. Nor do I have this issue when I visit other cities. I'd like to point out my most recent missed rendezvous was with a very well respected provider that I have chatted with several times but this was to be our first actual meeting. The reason she gave is completely plausible and I have no reason at all to doubt her. While her cancellation started me thinking, if she reads this I want her to know that I in no way include her in the 3 for 18 and would actually welcome her thoughts on the matter. So what say you all? Streak of bad luck? or something else? if something else how might I start troubleshooting? I'd like to fix this if I can. Thanks in advance!I have no problems or complaints when I visit incalls or arrange this type of outcall in other cities. Just Atlanta and just trying to arrange this particular type of morning outcall. Hygiene..... I have always taken great pride. Women comment regularly that they wish other men were as fastidious in hygiene and appearance as I am. References.... I've been doing this since the early 90's and have references provided by women I am and have been regular and even friends with over the years. That of course changes over time and it did cross my mind wondering if I had accidentally hurt someone's feelings but no idea who or how. I've been called kind, patient, generous, and discreet, other peoples words, not mine.
It sounds like a string of bad luck... or it could be providers that get better offers that are more convenient and cancel at the last minute. Unfortunately, that's not something you can fix.
At least you are getting cancellations vs. no-shows.This is true. All the women who cancelled did indeed contact me. No ghosting or no-call-no-shows.
I have gotten quite a few direct messages since yesterday and as I was reading through them I think the one thing I overlooked is that Atlanta is a bit disproportionate compared to other cities when it comes to women who maintain in calls and prefer to work out of incall locations. In most other cities it seems more "culturally normal" for a larger percentage of ladies to work primarily outcall. I imagine women who are primarily incall find a comfort in the routine of set location, set hours, route to work to avoid traffic, etc? perhaps to the degree that even if an outcall is set and confirmed, it takes very little to disrupt (perhaps just the thought of having to set an earlier-than-usual alarm?) before they start to consider it might not be worth it. Fair enough. I do kind of wish I had more heads up but I also fully believe they each intended to go through with it right up until they pulled the rip cord, so? You are right. Nothing I can fix. But thanks so much to you and all who responded!
I was about to basically say the same thing here.
Quit with the outcall ladies. Incall at their location instead. You'll be at 99% immediately.
Also I wouldn't worry about continuing the gift giving either. You're getting the service either way. If you like her and she likes you, you'll see her again with or without a gift.
Thanks 421 but I've been doing this since 93 so roughly 31 years? with over 20 of those years in Atlanta. I only moved away a few years ago.
I once had an opinion of gift giving similar to yours but it changed over time. In the last 10 or so years I have found that gift giving goes a long way to establish a good slow burn. It expresses that you read her page, are interested in what she likes, and basically the kind of person who is willing to listen. It's not delusions of romance, just respect. It''s not one-sided, either. I get gifts in return. As for incalls, I incall all of the time, most of the time in fact, and even have been invited to see some women in their actual homes vs their incall locations. That's not what this is about. This is a particular situation that I enjoy waking up in my hotel room and looking forward to the arrival of someone special. Make sense? It works great in Dallas, Chicago, and DC. I was just curious why it seemed so different in Atlanta.Sounds like some bad luck. Who’d you make mad in the matrix? Lol. Are you trying to book these morning appointments last minute? Maybe try booking in advance, could be more helpful. I know for myself morning appointments are best if arranged atleast 24 hrs in advance.
Have you considered booking your entertainment on a day other than your last day in ATL? This allows you time to implement a 'Plan B' approach to book a different girl or your preferred girl at a different time.
I book about a week or so in advance and confirm the day before. I usually get the cancellation around 9 or 10 pm.
I'm in town for work and the last day is usually the only morning I have an opportunity to linger.
Wow, sorry to hear that. Well I’m reliable if it doesn’t work out for you next time as well.