Hey Folks,
Could use some feedback or a steer. I am a gentleman hobbyist. Mid 50's. Nothing too wild, just a sweet romantic hobbyist. But twice now (in 10 years) a provider has written horrible stuff about me in some section I don't have access to. Providers who I know have alerted me and said they read some really bad stuff about me. "he very rough" "he grabbed for the money" . Stuff i wouldn't dream of doing or saying. I think it's a result of leaving a less than stellar review. But what does TER do to protect hobbyists from such actions? A provider who I am close to said she removed one of the two comments I received. Would appreciate any insight into this realm and best ways to address it when it occurs. Again, with the last provider who seriously under-performed, I simply left? Wasn't rude or disrespectful at all? Appreciate the insight!I'm not sure there is much you can do since you're not even supposed to know what's on that board. TER could ask you who told you that and they'd get in trouble if you told them.
I think your only salvation is to have those gals who support you act as references and perhaps proactively tell others that you are alright.
Providers are PROHIBITED from sharing what is said on the PO board, just like reviewers are forbidden from leaking things said on the RO board. Now that he has run his big fat mouth here on GD telling the whole fucking world that there are providers leaking things said on PO about him and any provider sticking up for him is going to be labeled the leaker.
To the OP, my advice is to suck it up like a man. Yeah it sucks to have people telling lies about you, I can relate to that fact more than most, but apparently you have at least a couple of ladies who like you, (at least they do now, they may feel differently if they get kicked off the board due to your lack of discretion) I would spend my time cultivating more good relationship and let the haters hate.
If you honestly think people aren’t sharing info across boards then I’ve got a bridge to sell you...
Considering what this board is predicated upon, I wouldn’t trust anyone here.
No doubt. Old timers here are more likely to have friendly providers feeding them all the gossip. Old timers are objecting to others now getting in on the gossip.
You missed a golden opportunity to name this thread "Episode V: Providers Strike Back"
That said, we don't have access to the ProvidersOnly board, so, there's no real recourse there. Less so because you have no proof that these events didn't happen.
The obvious solution is to use p411 (whose days are numbered) or make sure the references you're providing are from girls you've really clicked with and will give you a glowing reference.
So there is another guy in your age range that a lady said has Asperger Syndrome and trashed, that was posted as well
Just say what was posted on our po board????
What in the actual fuck? 😒
MacLeaky is still here, so they can't be taking it too seriously.
What in the actual fuck? is right.
Exactly
"Some provider said some guy...."
Wow that's worth getting your panties in a knot for. Guess what? Some guys on the PO board complain about some providers with out of date picks, bad attitudes, and ridiculous rates.
After reading the OPs reviews I think you may be onto something.
That the provider who was talking shit is brynn huh 😂😂 that’s your last review which was a 5/5 😂😂
no, it must have been a while ago. The provider said it was last summer but wouldn't say who. I had never heard of this secret providers resource. The thought I "was a nice guy and wanted to let me know". They put a comment in to the contrary.
It's so good to have a topic different from the last few days.
Rip the leaking bitches and bastards new ones!
Such a relief! Thank you !
Almost every time a guy describes himself as "Sweet" or "romantic" or the famous "nice guy" he turns out to be complete trash. I'm just saying. In my years of screening and meeting guys, screening for other ladies and getting feedback, whenever a guy describes himself as a nice guy, i know he's going to be at minimum annoying, at worst terrifying. So i'm not sure her posts about you are unwarranted. Its very unlikely a lady would make comments like that about you if they didn't happen, theres a reason those website are confidential.
I have NEVER described myself as either "Sweet" or "romantic". I think most providers recognize the various synonyms for "stalker" "boundary pusher" and "love sick puppy dog" lmao
Can anyone even imagine the likes of me describing myself as a "nice" guy??? rofl.
Thanks Momma, you just made my day.
I'm a nice guy. Of course I don't usually toot my horn when setting up dates because ... well I wasn't taught to brag on myself. But if I didn't think I was a nice guy, well, I'd feel pretty shitty about myself in that case.
I've been a nice guy. I had a reg for 8 years get into drugs. I'd white knight since I didn't see it and of course she treated me well.
After about 8 NCNS's I post a vague complaint. Next thing I'm getting threats from her and her duo partner, getting asked by other SPs to write reviews and to share personal info on this SP to wreck her. Getting push back from those SPs when I wouldn't.
The guy's got a valid concern. But, you'll find someone to see to get back into things. Be low key, but they're not going to put someone on the list that's going to push back, so I'd disagree with the idea that being nice is going to do it... the predators are looking for the nice ones 
I've suggested the mods have something here to update reviews for scenarios like mine. But, I can see where it would be a headache of a 'he said, she said' too. Yet, I've found most you want to avoid won't show their true personalities for many dates or many years. Meanwhile, there's always another 'nice guy' to take advantage of.
Apparently she doesn't want to see you anymore. Go find another hooker to play with.
because another potential provider brought it up
because another potential provider brought it up
the provider was using that flawed info to determine whether we should get together...and that could happen again and again..simple train of thought
I don't care what they think but if it begins to impacts who sees you or not than its an issue
Well, thanks all for the colorful responses! Did not know certain protocols that were called out. live and learn.
I did hear a suggestion last night that worked. And that was from a provider I have not reviewed. They pointed the negative comment I was referring to out to me. They have simply posted the negative comment was not their experience, and that I was a good guy. Will accumulate those. Ultimately, as many of you said, its a free country, so touche, I will get some thicker skin.
Thanks for various thumbs up/thumbs down...like MSNBC and FOX...
Peace out!
I read 6 of your reviews, half positive and half negative, and there's nothing dehumanizing or degrading about what you wrote as long as it's accurate. If providers can't handle being held to account for their poor hygiene or performance then they should de-list and find a safe space.
As a client I'd like to know if the provider I'm interested in has oily skin or a vagina that smells like rotting fish so I can find an alternative who's as clean and hygienic as I am. Clients shouldn't have to ask providers to brush their teeth for Christ's sake.
If women in this business want good reviews then they have to earn them by working hard, not doing the bare fucking minimum and expecting to be praised to the heavens by a bunch of white knights. It's called professionalism.
Here I'm sympathetic to all the women who claim fake reviews and things on open boards they don't like... I'm rethinking that one...
Like others though I wouldn't be worried about it. My guess is there's a lot of stuff like that on anyone with a decent amount of reviews.
Hell, I caught shit on the message boards here from a visitor for just being nice to her on the boards and PMs.
Still, it's interesting and I'm sure it's abused plenty. As would be any secret list. And I'm sure the real women know and judge the woman posting and your other feedback.
Ah well. What can you do?
Most providers have been abused and treated badly by men. So when a guy is nice to a provider it's a shock to their system. Think about it for a minute. If someone has been treated badly and abused for a while that's the behavior they expect from everyone. It's very sad. I've had a few providers like this. When a guy is nice to these girls they don't know how to react. It's like the "Deer In The Headlight" look.
If I had a nickel for every provider who told me they were on an antidepressant or anti-anxiety or bipolar medication, then I'd have a giant vault like Scrooge McDuck filled with nickels. And these are the well-reviewed ones!
I like to chat with an escort before we're intimate (I'm one of those awful "nice guys") and get to know her a little bit and Jesus Christ the stories they tell me. For their sake I hope they're just lying to get sympathy and a tip.
There are a lot of broken women in this business and protestations to the contrary I don't believe most of them when they tell me they love what they do.
I like to chat with an escort before we're intimate (I'm one of those awful "nice guys") and get to know her a little bit and Jesus Christ the stories they tell me. For their sake I hope they're just lying to get sympathy and a tip.
There are a lot of broken women in this business and protestations to the contrary I don't believe most of them when they tell me they love what they do.
I don't doubt that many of the stories I'm told are true since the women I've spoken with seem very sincere and honest.
I have performance issues because of a medication that I take and when I address the issue at the beginning of a session about 2/3s of the ladies confess to being on meds and struggling with either depression or anxiety.
And these are the well-reviewed, professional escorts!
There's the human part of me that naturally feels empathy, but then there's that cynical part that's been around the block a few too many times. I guess all I can do is be a decent, respectful client and just listen when they want someone to talk to.
More than 25% of all women in the USA are on mental health drugs of some sort, leading my friend to quip -- "Oh my God, that means 75% of them are walking around untreated!!!"
I had a similar situation once. Having a chat with a lady and I asked something that I thought was harmless and her response almost brought her to tears. Her eyes got watery but she withheld the tears. I felt really bad. I don't know if she was on meds though but what a sad site to see.
Was with an agency girl, who I saw for over a year intermittently. She had been drinking...
But she broke down crying and thanking me for always treating her as a lady, and not a pro.
God, I miss her!