I am a lot more likely to show up in shorts and golfing shirt than a coat and tie, but I do wear a Rolex and I usually wear crocodile moccasins that cost more than my first couple of cars. lol
It's funny how a nice watch and shoes sends a lot better message than a suit that came from JC Penny's. People talk about "blending in" especially in upscale hotels, I feel completely at home in the lobby of a five star hotel wearing shorts.
I think it's also a matter of how you "carry yourself" as you also mentioned. Case in point, some guys look like Bond, James Bond when wearing a tuxedo, other guys just look like the waiter. lol
Question to the providers who are still on the board and posting. What do you look for when you first meet a new client in person?
Like flight attendants, observing and watching people board on the plane. They are not just welcoming you on board, but looking for potential problems. Looking for signs of trouble or just gauging the customer in general, what do you use to evaluate your customer? And just what you want to talk about publicly, no divulging 'tricks of trade' that would compromise safety or security, please.
What can you talk about, again publicly, that raises an eyebrow or puts a customer in a certain category - clothes, cologne, type of wallet, phone, etc. I know cologne can make a difference.
Sometimes I'll visit, and there are two providers in a two bedroom condo. I'll notice the shoes of the other client and go oh, 'must be a Fed, government worker, or business guy, etc.' (patent leather, Bostonian versus Allen Edmonds, etc.).
My average clients are white collar professionals, 98% Caucasians, over 40 and well-groomed. Once in a blue moon, I'll get a gentleman who works for the government. Bottom line: due to my client's industry, they have to be well-dressed anyway. It's hard to explain what I'm looking for. I'm just a sucker for men period.
I am a people watcher it is fun, so when I first meet a new friend I look at their eyes, mouth, and hands first. If the hands, and mouth appear to be unclean that is no bueno for me. The eyes never lie. To me the eyes are the window to the soul. I can usually tell if someone is a drug user. I prefer to play sober. Clothes are another thing I look at because everyone is different. I like to see individuals styles, or if they have business attire for work. The retired man can usually be spotted by his casual attire.
...EYES!!!...the eyes never lie...you change everything else-eyes are it...its the first thing i look at when i meet a new female friend...big tits/nice legs/ass/etc...nice....can be important,but you cant change those eyes...also..dont judge by clothes...my biggest client for my biz...met me wearing a hoody and two different colored Converses.....business suits are just uniforms/costumes...MOST of the ones who have it,would never be pick out as the ones who are it....
I usually take care of this formality while booking. I learn a lot about people over a genuine phone conversation and I can always tell right away whether or not we have similar tastes and/or lifestyles. This helps me to determine if we would enjoy being on a date with each other for an extended period of time. I automatically reject guys who brag about their accomplishments or material possessions. It is a turnoff, and guys who do that don't really have it that way. However I admire it when a guy has great style and we can share a conversation about the craft of something that is material. This tells me that the guy knows what he is talking about and isn't just bluffing to make himself seem well put together.
People with professions where their physical appearance is important to gain positive client perception (Business, Government, etc) will more likely dress more polished and are likely to be sporting higher end department store brands from Harrods, Neiman Marcus, or Saks just to name a few. While I admire an impeccably dressed man, him having a terrible personality just is not a great combo for me.
if I were, the FIRST thing I would look for is, did he bring his wallet.
.....cleanliness should go without saying but sadly it still needs to be said. The eyes of course as already mentioned and an air of self- confidence without being too cocky or or even remotely arrogant is extremely attractive to me. On the other hand a degree of hesitancy or timidity is endearing and it brings out the nurturing Momma side of me. A kind, humorous, gentle face and demeanor mean a lot, too. Attire reflective of one's station in life or profession means little to me because I have little interest in socio- economics though the manner in which he may dress himself çan be very alluring whether he is an international banker or a cowboy. Being natural whatever that may be for him is most important to me any sign otherwise is a red flag.
Suzee
His eyes, his stance, and his scent.
I'm 47, I own a service company and have always been a blue collar worker. I don't own a suit and never have a reason to wear dress shoes or cologne. LOL. When I'm not working, I'm on my boat at the local lake, or better yet in Lake Havasu wearing flip flops and partying with 30 other boaters in a cove. In the winter, if I'm not running the boat (yes, it was 80 degrees yesterday in Arizona 
) you will find me at the dunes riding quads, camping in a toy hauler partying at night around a 15' bonfire. Every chance I get. Maybe I'm camping up on the Mogollon rim at 9000 feet in a beautiful national forest in the mountains with friends and family, BBQing and making smores at night over a fire. You can't pull toys with a sports car! You will never find me at a golf course, or in a wine bar LOL.
Never judge a book by its cover.
If people have read the book, or know it, then it can be held in high regard. An older friend of mine, looks like he is homeless, but has a ton of money. Everybody know it in this small town and are always sucking up to him. Interesting to watch the lawyers, accountants, etc., vying for his business.
That being said, if people don't know you, they do judge. I think the Pacific Northwest and Southwest very much less so, because as you said people are 'pulling' their expensive toys, not necessarily driving them. Different culture. Northeast, Mid-Atlantic, and South very different.
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I totally agree! I grew up in Wisconsin however. The culture has nothing to do with geographics. Even in Wisconsin I had a bass boat, snowmobiles and quads/motocross bikes (as did all my guy friends). I think it may just be the guys you know, or are familiar with in your circle possibly? Here are the two categories successful men fit in IMO: College educated, or skilled tradesman. Both have spent a minimum of 4 years learning. One in a college, the other in a trade school and apprenticeship (or journeyman program). I'm not sure what kind of clothes a guy wears matters when they have the money to pay $300-$600 an hour for no strings attached sex? There are a lot of masculine men who don't dress like a mannequin at the men's warehouse when they are not working LOL. I'll be in a solid color fitted T, with jeans and my Chucks, or Jack Purcells! (unless I go out, then I'll wear a button up collared shirt).
No doubt one can tell if a guy has money if he is wearing expensive clothes, but not all men would spend money on those kinds of clothes even when they have it. Among my circles, the women dress up, not the men LOL.
If people have read the book, or know it, then it can be held in high regard. An older friend of mine, looks like he is homeless, but has a ton of money. Everybody know it in this small town and are always sucking up to him. Interesting to watch the lawyers, accountants, etc., vying for his business.
That being said, if people don't know you, they do judge. I think the Pacific Northwest and Southwest very much less so, because as you said people are 'pulling' their expensive toys, not necessarily driving them. Different culture. Northeast, Mid-Atlantic, and South very different.
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That's what I tell my friend who owns a garage. He says I dress nice. I tell him he has more money because he doesn't have to buy nice clothes for work and keep up a public image. His 'work' money goes into tangible investments that, generally, increase in value over time. A lot can be depreciated or expensed.
I remember sitting on a plane going to a meeting. Random thought led me to pricing my 'look' from head to toe. Top of my head to the bottom of my shoes; watch, bespoke suit, jewelry, wallet, cuff links, etc., Looking at about $17,500. I'm sure people thought I was dressed nice, but I wonder if they had any idea? That's money I have to spend to keep up an image.
He carrys himself, Talks and That Hes A Gentlman .. I also find * A Mans Arms and Hand to be SexY *
I am a lot more likely to show up in shorts and golfing shirt than a coat and tie, but I do wear a Rolex and I usually wear crocodile moccasins that cost more than my first couple of cars. lol
It's funny how a nice watch and shoes sends a lot better message than a suit that came from JC Penny's. People talk about "blending in" especially in upscale hotels, I feel completely at home in the lobby of a five star hotel wearing shorts.
I think it's also a matter of how you "carry yourself" as you also mentioned. Case in point, some guys look like Bond, James Bond when wearing a tuxedo, other guys just look like the waiter. lol
Just tell me you're not wearing Tommy Bahama. If you are, welcome officially to the Old Fekker's Club.
As a minority, if I'm at a hotel, regardless of what I wear, they think I'm hotel staff. Especially if I'm wearing a blue blazer and khakis. I may pull the James Bond move and take their car keys and 'valet' it for them next time.
The reason for buying a $30,000 Rolex is to have something to hock when you go broke.
Thing of it another way, you are in a poker game, there's $25,000 in the pot, the guy across from you goes all in for $10,000, you are holding a straight flush, but you only have two grand left in chips and no more money in your pocket. What are you going to do, bet your phone? sheesh, you have to plan for these kind of things you know. lmao
White faced Daytona? Tiffany co brand? How close am I?
LOL,
This is what I'm talking about, from another thread.
That's just 8 shades wrong and in fact, should be against the law.
I do not wear boat shoes/deck shoes. That’s way too preppy for me LOL.
What’s so hard about keeping your feet moisturized so the skin isn’t cracked and trimming toenails so they aren’t talons? Even if the large toenail is dark and ruff, polish it. It takes a minute each side. If someone is afraid to show their feet, they must be nasty! You should take care of your feet whether inside a shoe or not! I live in a warm weather state and always have a fresh pair of Reef sandals for pool parties and lake days. That must be an east coast thing?
LOL,
This is what I'm talking about, from another thread.
That's just 8 shades wrong and in fact, should be against the law.
All of the provider responses pretty much cover all the bases. I personally look for cleanliness and their attire. But really it's about how they carry themselves. I think someone else also mentioned the eyes, kindness, confidence but not arrogant, their demeanor. Same for me. I also like to see a sense of humor. As long as I can find some point of connection -- and they're respectful and clean with no weird vibes -- I'm good to go.