hello

i am new to the game and would like some advice on provider screening.
while i have seen few and far between providers over the years those few are no longer active and were not long term relationships, so i am basically starting from scratch.

my dilemma is this..
i am one of those individuals who is extremely protective of my personal information under completely normal circumstances, no face book, linked in, twitter etc., being in my 50's i was never thrilled or interested in putting my life on display via social media. having a government job, being married with children, having to worry about a wife questioning a charge on a credit card makes me that much more paranoid about the need to maintain anonymity.

i am perfectly sane/clean and have nothing to hide, and i do completely understand the position of the provider needing to feel safe before seeing a new client, however i cannot even fathom providing a copy of my ID/work information fearing catastrophic personal ramifications.

i don't have the time or desire to invest in Ashley Madison or line dating type services.
might being able to build a relationship with certain providers who screen lightly possibly transition to acceptable references for verification moving forward?
i am even amenable to paying any provider i identify their fee for a "non play" meeting at the location of their choice to make sure we are a good fit for each other.

how might this site or any other screening site be integrated for acceptable references without having to divulge too much sensitive information.
what might a "light" screening from a provider entail?

thank you in advance for any advice.