While I'm sure reasons #1 & #3 are pretty common in p4p (as well as a provider simply being too tired/not wanting to put in the effort), I've definitely never heard of a faked orgasm enhancing sexual pleasure, unless it's the vocalization/psychological components that intensify sex somehow.
I highly doubt there are many providers out there who doubt their own sexual function, and I'm a bit suspect about this reason- sounds like something along the lines of the 'female frigidity' myth. I could see this being a reason amongst women who are much older or have medical issues that affect their ability to cum, but I question 'sexual insecurity' as a top reason for a faked orgasm; unlike men, women aren't really under social pressure to 'perform.'
I really love to orgasm, whomever I'm with... it's much more satisfying for me to provide some direction and truly cum than it would be (I'd imagine) to fake it. I'd rather have a real O than pretend I get off easily in a multitude of crazy positions where I can't even reach my clit, lol. Plus, then repeat clientele know what I like and it's even easier in the future! Faking it seems like a lapse in communication to me- you can train your body to orgasm through physicality alone (attraction helps, of course, but it's definitely not necessary), and I think guiding a client to help you is extremely hot and demonstrates mutuality and at very least a superficial caring for your sexual partners' needs. That's why I adore FIV & clitoral stimulation so much- it's infrequent that I can cum during actual sex, but both of us working together to achieve an 0 is tremendously hot and satisfying. Moreover, this allows my date to really feel it, so there's never any question that it was real.
Sorry, little tangential, but I hope that answered something!
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Many reviews talk about the Os a provider is having during a session with some also stating "if they were real". Apparently studies show that most women (50-68%) have faked an orgasm. The question is why is it so common?
I just read an article about a study that surveyed about 500 women age 18-32 and found a number of different reasons:
1. Protect a partners feelings, stroke a mans ego
2. The womans Insecurity about her own sexual function
3. Desire to end the sex act quickly
4. Some women fake orgasm to enhance their own sexual experience. "these women are never talked about. They are taking control of their sensuality and ensuring that they have a good time. Faking orgasm can make sex more fun and exciting for them, it has little to do with their partner"
I think most guys would have assumed #1 or #3 in the P4P game but I guess #4 could also apply.
Any thoughts?
we have the ability to fake it more easily.... the whys are more complicated to answer but speaking for myself only.....I find myself giving up too soon and this can be in real life or the hobby ....Sometimes you just want to let your partner off the hook and fake it......once you reach a certain point you and you know its not going to happen it just easy to pretend In civvie life you can be more open about it but as a provider it is our job to make sure you leave feeling good about the experience ....sex feels good and for women that does not always mean having to have an orgasm to still have a wonderful time ...when it does happen? Icing on the cake ....I mean who does not like to cum? Not sure if this helped but I tried.....
yes, everyone likes the icing. fake icing isn't fun. but tying, is fun, right?
Maybe some of the girls can speak to this if what I repeat is untrue. I recall reading a Masters and Johnson report that claimed that it was rare for a woman to orgasm and not have it be accompanied by erect nipples.
That`s not to say that each time your partners nipples get hard she`s getting off, but if she`s showing the signs and they`re not erect she might be faking.
I just read an article about a study that surveyed about 500 women age 18-32 and found a number of different reasons:
1. Protect a partners feelings, stroke a mans ego
2. The womans Insecurity about her own sexual function
3. Desire to end the sex act quickly
4. Some women fake orgasm to enhance their own sexual experience. "these women are never talked about. They are taking control of their sensuality and ensuring that they have a good time. Faking orgasm can make sex more fun and exciting for them, it has little to do with their partner"
I think most guys would have assumed #1 or #3 in the P4P game but I guess #4 could also apply.
Any thoughts?
While I'm sure reasons #1 & #3 are pretty common in p4p (as well as a provider simply being too tired/not wanting to put in the effort), I've definitely never heard of a faked orgasm enhancing sexual pleasure, unless it's the vocalization/psychological components that intensify sex somehow.
I highly doubt there are many providers out there who doubt their own sexual function, and I'm a bit suspect about this reason- sounds like something along the lines of the 'female frigidity' myth. I could see this being a reason amongst women who are much older or have medical issues that affect their ability to cum, but I question 'sexual insecurity' as a top reason for a faked orgasm; unlike men, women aren't really under social pressure to 'perform.'
I really love to orgasm, whomever I'm with... it's much more satisfying for me to provide some direction and truly cum than it would be (I'd imagine) to fake it. I'd rather have a real O than pretend I get off easily in a multitude of crazy positions where I can't even reach my clit, lol. Plus, then repeat clientele know what I like and it's even easier in the future! Faking it seems like a lapse in communication to me- you can train your body to orgasm through physicality alone (attraction helps, of course, but it's definitely not necessary), and I think guiding a client to help you is extremely hot and demonstrates mutuality and at very least a superficial caring for your sexual partners' needs. That's why I adore FIV & clitoral stimulation so much- it's infrequent that I can cum during actual sex, but both of us working together to achieve an 0 is tremendously hot and satisfying. Moreover, this allows my date to really feel it, so there's never any question that it was real.
Sorry, little tangential, but I hope that answered something!
-- Modified on 2/7/2012 10:20:00 AM
Oh, Harlowe....I love your attitude....Can't wait to experience the pleasure of your company after I return from vacation.
That makes perfect sense. Most of the Civie women I have been with have been able to cum by rubbing tier clit while we have sex. I think 85 percent of women I have been with always rub thier clit while we are having sex. It's like a girl rubbing my balls while she is giving me a blow job or while we are having sex...it makes me CUM quick!
Due to a common psychotropic (anti-depressant) prescription I couldn’t achieve an orgasm about 10 years ago with my ATF. She subsequently had a certified pissed-off shit fit and told me I better get off whatever it was or she would never see me again.
I learned too deal with my then “Clinical Depression” without the aid of common pharmaceuticals from that point on.
Maybe THEY need vindication much as we?
...because I can't fake anything. I just start giggling because if I fake it I think I sound silly. ^^;
the real ones are the only ones that matter anyways, no?
WHen I was making love to my SO i knew she was cumming when she did these things:
1. Sweat
2. Pussy started to contract
3. I could feel a RUSH a wetness in her pussy
4. She would dig her nails into me or HOLD me really tight!
Loves all 4 of these things!!!!! I think 90% of women are the same way and I have been with my share of providers and CIvies